3 lies you have been told in the SALON
Have you been told any of these lies
Lie #1
Warm Equals ORANGE!
Lie #2
You Can’t have that HAIR!
Lie #3
You’ll have to CUT IT ALL OFF!
LIE #1: warm equals Orange
You are not alone here, almost every person I have asked if they want warm or cool tones they say “I want cool because I don’t want to be orange”! Well I am here to tell you if you are walking out of the salon with orange hair it is either a color correction or they did not choose the right toner. Everyone tells me that they pull red or they pull orange, this is not because your hair is different than anyone else’s.
Every type of hair goes through stages of color lift. If you are black then you will see some red on the way to blonde if you are a dark brown then you will see orange on the way to blonde and if you are light brown to blonde you will see yellow. Its not because you lift any different then your neighbor Susie Q. Its exactly what we want the hair to do, its how we as stylist tone your hair during the process that matters. I’ll admit that I have chosen the wrong toner a time or two, but I have learned more and more and I can say I am confident in my toning now.
If you are in the red stage but a level 4 then I am gonna add a ash tone, because green cancels red, if you lifted to the orange stage of a level 6/7 then I would add a blue tone to cancel the orange and give you a neutral dark blonde/light brown tone, and last but not least yellow. If you are yellow then I am gonna use some purple in my formula to give you the perfect blonde you have always wanted.
So find a stylist that knows the color wheel and has the knowledge to give you a nice in between color. There are exceptions to this, however, color correction would be one of those. Box color sometimes will lift to weird colors that will never come out, I have had pink and green that would not tone and they just needed to have a dark tone put over them until they could grow out long enough to start over. I have had color correction that has blown the cuticle to the point it would not hold any color.
The chemicals in some of the box colors mixed with out colors can create a sort of bomb effect and completely trash the cuticle or catch on fire in a sense. You dont want that so tell your stylist if you have used. Trust me we can tell no matter what with the way it lifts but we can prevent unwanted damage if we know the truth. We wont judge you its okay. Do a test strand before you start if you are concerned and even if you are not.
Lie #2: You cant have that Hair!
Yes you can, it may not look exactly like the photo you are showing us but you can have the hair that makes you feel like you have the style or color that you see in magazines. Trust your stylist and let them help you find the perfect hair to make you look and feel like your best self. There are so many factors that go into you having the best hair of you life. As a stylist we are looking at many different factors such as your face shape, your skin undertones and most importantly your personality. These will all play a role in how we help you choose the right hair for you. Depending on your face shape we will suggest a look that best fits, as well as whether you have cool or warm undertones. If you have warm undertones then you will want a warmer color. Same for the cooler tones if you have cool undertones. Choosing the right color for your hair can really highlight your skin tone and help bring life back into your face.
Beauty is not only on the outside it is also on the inside, we are redefining beauty. God shows us that yes we are beautiful on the outside but we are more beautiful with in our souls, We look from the inside out and fix what satan has broken. What God can heal.
I remember when I went through my hair breaking and ended up cutting it off. I went through a devasting depression and did not feel pretty or beautiful about myself at all. I felt ugly and worthless and so I started to define beauty .What does Beauty mean to me? I started thinking of those people that I thought were beautiful and I began to see that they were that way because they were so kind and loving. I began to realize that it had little to do with how they looked, but how they made others feel. God has created us in his image and I cant imagine a more beautiful thing than that.
Lie #3: You’ll have to cut it all OFF!
Just because your hair has some damage does not mean that you have to cut it all off! There are options for you. Just because you have damage does not mean that you have to cut all of you hair off. There are other options, having been in your shoes I do have some things that have worked for me. First evaluate your hair, where it begins to get sparse it where you need a cut, however, you don’tnecessarily have to. An inch will do if you do the other things suggested as well. I love the K18 treatment, it has revolutionized the hair industry and it really heals the hair cuticle.
A little science behind the hair strand. The hair strand is made up of the medulla, core(cortex), the cuticle and this fish scale like outer layer that helps protect the core. The core is where our pigment lies and where we get our strength. The cuticle is what protects that layer and the scaley layer protects the cuticle. When we lighten our hair it breaks open the out layer and the cuticle to penetrate the cortex. This can also happen with heat if we are not using heat protectant.
Now that the cuticle is damaged we can either cut it off or rebuild. I would much rather rebuild it. On top of the K18 treatments I would also use an oil. Our hair is made up of Keratin Protein, which we can also get from taking Biotin but our bodies naturally produce this for our hair and nails. Since our hair only gets this from oil from our scalp it leaves the hair that is past our chins more vulnerable. So I tell all my clients to add the Keratin healing oil to the ends of the hair. That is the one I love but there are other good ones out there as well. Most oils are better then no oils. I also highly recommend keeping up with our trims. This is the best way, the more often you go in for this, the less hair you have to take and the more length you will get.
This reminds me of a story in the bible about a man named Samson. He was gifted strength from God through his hair. He was the strongest man alive and no one could beat him. This upsets the Philistines and they wanted to know where he got his strength so they could find out his weakness. He met a prostitute named Delilah and he laid with her. She convinced him to tell her his weakness and he told her that if he cut his hair he would lose his strength so she had someone come cut his hair while he slept and he became weak. The Philistines then forced him to go and build their temple, he became outraged and prayed to God for to give him one last bit of strength. God granted him his prayer and he gave him enough strength to destroy the temple and then killed himself.
“So he told her everything. “no razor has been used on my head,” he said, “because I have been a Nazarite dedicated to God from my mothers womb. If my head were shaved, my strength would leave me, I would become as weak as any other man.””
Imagine how great God is that he forgave Samson for telling and then still gave him the strength to destroy what the enemy had built. How great is Gods love. Have you ever been in a place where you have not felt forgivable, that was how Samson probably felt after he told. I know that I feel unworthy of forgiveness at times but that is the great thing about Gods love. It is that we can’t earn it, it was given to us as a gift. Just like Samson received the gift of strength through his hair we have received the gift of life through Jesus. That is one thing we can be sure of and have hope in. When we accept Jesus our circumstances might not change but our outlook will. I was told it like this one time.
You are going around in this circle with the same problems over and over, no hope that they will ever get better. Then you decide to accept Jesus as your savior but you are still in this circle and things are still the same, but they are not exactly because now you are not alone. Now you have Jesus at your side and you begin to have hope. You start to lay your burdens on him and you begin to have peace and joy. The problems eventually become easy to handle because you know that Jesus has you and you don’t have to carry the burden any longer.
I challenge you to ask Jesus to fill the void you have been missing. I challenge you to ask him to change your heart on the inside so that you feel more beautiful on the outside. If you want to start your relationship with Jesus today it is the easiest and hardest thing to do at the same time. You will have to give up your old self, and become a new. All you have to do is ask for forgiveness and believe Jesus is the son of God. Believe Jesus is your savior and follow him. That’s it, all you have to do is ask. God is a loving and forgiving God. It does not matter what you have done he forgives and forgets. Satan uses guilt and shame to keep us from him, this is another lie we have been told, but we don’t have to feel this way because she sacrificed himself for you, so you don’t have to feel that way. So you can have direct access to him. Its a powerful thing and it will change your life.
You can message me if you want to know more, or leave a comment if you have a prayer request but I am here for you. I am praying for you and God is by your side.